Hello my name is Rose, and I am a food addict.
Food has been my everything, ever since I can remember.
Maybe it was when dad put me on that diet at age 12. As soon as the diet was over, I was starving and had my first binge! Thus began a pattern of starve and binge, always on a diet or off a diet. Believing I was not ok if I was over-weight.
Over the years, those beliefs picked up momentum. Before I knew it was a food addict. I always had to be eating for comfort, joy, pain and pleasure. It did not seem to matter what my feeling was, I ate over it.
I was using food to stave off everything except my appetite! “Have a feeling, have a snack,” was my thinking process.
I am not sure when it became a habit, but the first time I began a program for dealing with food addiction, I actually did not know what to do with myself if I wasn’t eating! I had to break that habit of hand to mouth action. It was similar to the time I quit smoking many years ago.
Luckily breaking habits is simple in reality. It takes about 3 weeks to break the habit and 3 weeks to create a new one. Once we realize this, we can see the end in sight. We have hope. Give it conscious attention and while uncomfortable at first, as we create a new habit, the body then gets more comfortable with the new. I cannot imagine that old habit of lighting a cigarette and taking it to my lips to take a drag of smoke! Almost makes me gag to think about it now.
Not only did I quit the habit and addiction to cigarettes, but I have also conquered the food addiction as well. I no longer use food for anything other than FOOD!
In actuality, food is just food! Once we take this concept from head to heart, it helps.
Food cannot hug you, love you, give you companionship, keep you from feeling less lonely, or make you feel less tired when you need sleep.
Food cannot comfort you except while you are stuffing your face, maybe for a short time, but after you have eaten the huge plate of spaghetti or mashed potatoes smothered in gravy, you now have 2 problems!
You stuffed and miserable and still have the original feeling, you ate over!
Below are a list of questions to ask yourself:
1. Do I eat when I’m not hungry, or not eat when my body needs nourishment?
2. Do I go on eating binges for no apparent reason, sometimes eating until I’m stuffed or even feel sick?
3. Do I have feelings of guilt, shame, or embarrassment about my weight or the way I eat?
4. Do I eat sensibly in front of others and then make up for it when I am alone?
5. Is my eating affecting my health or the way I live my life?
6. When my emotions are intense—whether positive or negative—do I find myself
reaching for food?
7. Do my eating behaviors make me or others unhappy?
8. Have I ever used laxatives, vomiting, diuretics, excessive exercise, diet pills, shots, or other medical interventions (including surgery) to try to control my weight?
9. Do I fast or severely restrict my food intake to control my weight?
10. Do I fantasize about how much better life would be if I were a different size or weight?
11. Do I need to chew or have something in my mouth all the time:
food,gum, mints, candies, or beverages?
12. Have I ever eaten food that is burned, frozen, or spoiled; from containers in the grocery store; or out of the garbage?
13. Are there certain foods I can’t stop eating after having the first bite?
14. Have I lost weight with a diet or “period of control” only to be followed by bouts of uncontrolled eating and/or weight gain?
15. Do I spend too much time thinking about food, arguing with myself about whether or what to eat, planning the next diet or exercise cure, or counting calories?
The question now becomes, “How Can I Change?”
You may have answered “YES” to many of the questions above. Typically, even the most normal eaters can relate to some of those questions.
Food is everywhere and we love to eat! That is awesome and fun! The problem becomes when it turns into a problem for us, individually.
There is no one size fits all kind of solution. In my experience, it has been a journey of hits and misses, trial and errors. Which has given me more things that I can help you maneuver through your own journey easier.
For some people it is just ‘THAT ONE LITTLE THING” that gets tweaked and can cure them for good. For others, like myself, it takes everything and more in the tool box to fix my food and weight issues.
This is good for you, because we cannot teach what we have not experienced ourselves. I have well traveled the diet route, the emotional healing route and have been Certified as a Life Coach, EFT-Emotional Freedom Techniques / Tapping Practitioner, and Certified Master Practitioners in NLP, Hypnotherapy.
I am certain we can find the solutions you will need for your food freedom so that you, too can lose the weight for good.